Here is why I have a not-so-serious addiction to buying music, listening to music, or making music. In fact, here's why I love music in general.

When I buy music, I do not buy it just for the melody, just for the beats, or the fact that it could actually make you dance. Oh no! I like to listen for more than just that.

Music is everyone's connection to the world. It's as human and as exhilarating as sex, and just as capable of pleasing, as it is shocking.  It's our mind, our heart and our soul. Everything that we are thinking, someone out there is thinking it too.

Music is everyone's friend. It's an experience, just like hiking the rocks, falling in love for the first time, and walking into a bad neighborhood. It gives us a thought that regardless of who is making the music, someone out there is thinking the same thing you are and can inspire you the way your friends and family probably never could.

If you are a weirdo, there is music for weirdos. If you are a fashionista, there is music for you. If you are a sex addict, there is music out there for you. Music is not just something to buy and sell. It's a reminder that someone out there is your friend, and buying their record is an eqivalent to shaking their hands and saying hello.

Everybody can say that in this world you are not alone, but nothing like music (be it mainstream or indie) can actually prove that. Not just that, but music can bring out the imaginative, the wild, the childlike OR the romantic, the simple...music can bring something out of you that you never thought you had.

The best type of music isn't dumbed down, and isn't so flatlined in ideas or feelings. Instead of making fourteen albums of pain, there can be fourteen albums of progress.

Music can help you, befriend you, let you into another's mind, distort your reality to match another's, it can spiritually show you the way or lead you astray, or remind you that you can go on another day. Music can calm you, music make you cry, music can rile you up and make you want to punch someone in the eye. Music is geeky, gloomy, wise, and stupid, occasionally Santa Claus on the remix, and Cupid produces it! Good music  has a purpose to it, an those who really listens to it know what that purpose is. All of this, and you don't have to know who the artist is.

Whereas, shoes, Mom, can help you do nothing but walk. Dresses do nothing but decorate you and keep you warm. It's nothing like music.

I once replied in a very funny way to morbidcoronerchick. She said, "what's with the ghetto talk?" I said, "well, it's better than calling you my sweet and sexy lady".

She said, "well, you can but in a friendly way." The thing is, though, you can't.

I explained to her that calling your friend sexy is kind of awkward. After all, if a man calls a girl sexy, he wants either her or someone that looks equally sexy. To tell you the truth, the thing about men is that we don't really want a sexy friend. That, in fact, is an oxymoron. No man really wants to be just road dawgs with someone they want to kiss or someone they want to bed.

If ever some girls wonder why guys always hang out with each other more than they do with women, its easy. We men can go to a concert, go out to a club, play ball, do whatever and be cool with each other. No attraction. Same rules apply with the homosexual and the opposite sex. We can do whatever we like, and respect each other in the morning enough to talk about anything you like to.

With us men, if we had to be friends with a girl, we want to be friends with someone that we don't secretly want to have sex with. Someone who to us is not really that attractive. And by atractive, we don't just mean looks. If they can fit that description, then we can hang forever.

Let's say if you are the girl who will talk extensively about your sex life with them. Men can be friends with that, because the truth is the men thgat are attracted really don't want to hear who you been sleeping with. Men that like you want to know will you sleep with them. However, friends don't care because they don't want to screw you no way.

Another good example is the woman who doesn't doll herself up. Its easy to not fall in love, when you are going rough without the use of makeup or looking like you are trying to catch a man. Then again, this one can be wrong. After all, I like a bit of tomboy in my girls from time to time.

So, girls, if you are trying to find a friend in a guy, don't do anything as a means of attracting him. Keep it simple, and mysterious, and I will meet you at the soccer field tomorrow.

oohtique (formerly BunnyParfait) wrote a women's POV that can be seen riiiight here.

While I was watching Coupling, Jeffrey (played by Richard Coyle) said something on the show that I can't help but quote now. His philosophy on "the arse" is so insightful, that quoting him feels like he wrote his own blog on my page. So, let's offer it up, shall we?

"You know what arse's are? The arse is the human race's favorite thing. We like them on each other. We like them on magazine covers. We even like them on babies!

When we're alone, we like to scratch them. When we are at a fire, we like to warm them. And who among us hasn't ina lonely moment reached back for a discreet fondle?

We love our arses. When God gave us our arses, he had to stick them around theback, just so we wouldn't sit and stare at them all day. Because when God made the arse, he didn't say "Hey, it's just your basic hinge. Let's knock off early." He said, "Behold ye angels! I have created the arse! Throughout the ages to come, men and women shall grab hold of these, and shout my name!"

Amen, brother!